If you are actively building self esteem in children, you will be assisting them with a critical part of living happy, successful lives. The foundation begins in childhood.
Children can be taught in simple, easily understood ways what all people need.
We all need:
1. Love and friendship from at least one caring person.
2. The knowledge that we can control our own happiness from within.
3. Fun – laughter and the joy of learning.
4. The freedom to make choices.
With these basics, children will not grow up searching for self esteem – it will already be part of their nature.
A few simple ways to begin incorporating these basic concepts in their daily lives:
Have the child make four short lists:
The People I Love
Things I Do Well
Things I Do for Fun
Choices I make
An adult can help the child expand these lists, using specifics in each child’s life, something like this:
What I did to be kind to someone today
What I did right in school today
What we will do for fun next Saturday
The activities I get to choose tomorrow
Use some basic ideas like these for building self esteem in children as stepping stones, then as they mature they can learn how to elaborate on each principle and to balance these four needs.
They will have self esteem, seeing themselves as successful, lovable people. They will gain the ability to decide what they want in life and how to get it without harming what other people want.
References:
Sullo, Robert, Teach them to be happy.
Sullo, Laurie and Robert, I’m learning to be happy.
Both published by New View Publications, Chapel Hill, NCwww.NewViewPublications.com
All ideas are based on the teachings of Dr. William Glasser